We don’t know when my mother had the stroke — probably when she had heart surgery in 2014. Once home from the hospital, she said there were words she wanted to say but couldn’t get them to come out of her mouth. Over time, it became clear she was having trouble speaking.
It took months for me to identify what it was. Some people insisted it was Alzheimer’s because her declining speech resembled dementia, but to me that made no sense. No other symptoms matched.
Finally, I watched a video of a woman who had aphasia — the loss of speech due to damage to the part of the brain that controls language. She sounded just like my mother. A speech pathologist confirmed that indeed my mother had expressive aphasia — difficulty speaking and writing.
Her last visit to our home in Oakland was 2015. Words came out haltingly, and she often just gave up. It was immensely painful to witness. This was a woman who spoke to her friends for hours a day, every day. And then it occurred to me … while she struggled to get words to naturally come out of her mouth, she could still read words and recite them.